Healing for Men beyond the physical

Healing for Men Beyond the Physical

In this webinar, the first of 2020, Garrett Murrin and Avril Murrin of Radiant Life Technologies explore the concept of "marching to the beat of your own drum" as a pathway for men to achieve healing that transcends the physical body. This session serves as the third installment in a series dedicated to healing beyond symptoms, following previous discussions on hormonal balance and the natural rhythms of women.

Understanding the Male Journey

While the webinar is specifically tailored for men, the insights shared are equally valuable for women, as understanding the male experience fosters harmony in relationships – whether with a husband, father, son, or colleague. Avril notes that for her, learning about Garrett’s state of being and his unique approach to life has reduced frustration and eliminated the unrealistic expectation that men should operate exactly like women.

Garrett and Avril emphasize that they are presenting these concepts as a collaboration within Radiant Life Technologies. They invite the audience to suspend judgment regarding the "bland statements" made during the presentation, encouraging viewers to note their questions for the Q&A session at the end. Furthermore, they highlight that coMra therapy remains an integral tool for providing the physical support necessary to sustain this deeper, more holistic healing journey.

The Myth of the "Rebel Without a Cause"

The presenters introduce the image of the "rebel without a cause." Often, in adolescence, men sense that something is amiss within their family or societal structures and rebel. However, lacking wisdom or life experience, this rebellion often manifests as mere frustration and anger rather than effective change. Garrett explains that this is a "turn of the spiral" – a cyclical attempt to find one's own rhythm that often fails because it lacks a foundation in true knowledge.

Garrett shares two personal anecdotes to illustrate this: 1. The "No" as a Boundary: A husband refusing to follow his wife’s dietary advice for a medical condition was not simply being difficult; he intuitively understood that the true healing required addressing the underlying relationship dynamic. 2. The Freedom to Choose: Garrett discusses his lifelong struggle with headaches. When he refuses supplements, it is not always an act of rebellion, but an attempt to maintain his freedom to choose. If he simply complies to please others, he breeds resentment. He emphasizes that his headaches are a reflection of his state of being – specifically, a tendency toward "over-responsibility."

True Healing: Beyond the Physical

True healing involves recognizing that a gap in our knowledge manifests first as mental and emotional imbalance, and eventually as physical disease. Garrett distinguishes between information (reading about something) and knowledge (experiencing it firsthand). Disease, therefore, acts as a signal to help us uncover these gaps in our knowledge.

By correcting the underlying mindset – such as the tendency to feel over-responsible – the physical symptom often resolves. This approach is detailed in the book Health and Holism by Théun Mares and is also referenced in the foreword of the coMra therapy user guide. The presenters provide several examples of this connection: * Adrenal dysfunction: Excessive mental or emotional stress. * Arterial hypertension: Fear of survival. * Colitis: Not wanting to accept the process of life. * Prostatitis: Feeling inadequate as a male. * Testicle disorders: Lack of expressing male power. * Hernia: Severe frustration.

Breaking Free from Social Conditioning

Society often conditions men to conform, which leads to a "go along to get along" mentality. This conformity is a breeding ground for disease. While many men attempt to rise above this through outer-life achievements, they often find that ticking boxes does not lead to fulfillment. This eventually triggers a crisis – a moment where a man realizes that his life, while perhaps functional on the surface, is devoid of true meaning.

Garrett shares his own crisis: the realization that he was living a life others expected of him, which felt like an "empty husk." He realized he had to choose between a "safe" path that led to a hollow end, or a path with no guarantees of success but which allowed him to express his true purpose.

Answering the Call of the Heart

To heal, one must learn to follow the "beat of their own drum" – or, in other words, to follow their heart. The presenters warn that society is moving away from this, discarding the obvious in favor of intellectual complexity. They share a story of a medicine man in the Amazon who, when asked how he knew which plants to mix, simply replied, "The plants tell us what to do." This intuitive connection is what modern society has largely lost.

Using the perspective of death to cut through the "pettiness" of life, Garrett and Avril urge men to consider how they wish to sign the "guest book of life." They cite the common regrets of the dying, noting that many men wish they had the courage to live a life true to themselves rather than the life others expected.

In closing, they offer a vision of the man who answers the call of his heart: a man of impeccable honor, quiet dignity, and tenacious courage. As Plato famously noted, "We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy is when men are afraid of the light." For men, the journey of healing is about finding the courage to step into their own light, acknowledge their inner power, and live with authenticity.

The Intuitive Principle: Feelings as Irrational Knowledge

To understand if we are truly in touch with our hearts, we must first define what "feelings" actually are. Feelings are the registration of irrational knowledge within us; they represent the intuitive principle of the heart, as opposed to the intellect, which is our rational principle.

Consider two examples of this in practice. Years ago, while working in the engineering department at a mine, a machine in the production plant broke down. I had no prior experience with that specific equipment, and there was no time to consult a manual. I approached the machine and, guided by an intuitive sense, knew exactly which panel to open and which components to test. This was not a logical deduction; it was an irrational knowing – a sense of what needed to be done without a step-by-step intellectual explanation.

A second example occurred during the preparation of this webinar. I had been working through several iterations of the presentation with Avril. At one point, I felt confident in the material, but when Avril reviewed it, she asked, "What is the point?" Initially, I felt defensive, but I chose to listen. As she explained her perspective, one word stood out to me: "healing." That single word revealed the missing piece of the message. By listening to that internal feeling – and to Avril’s feedback – I was able to refine the presentation into its current form. This required trusting my intuition over the fear of a looming deadline or the insecurity of a low self-image.

As Garrett Murrin notes, developing this trust is a skill. In our marriage, Avril and I have made a commitment to corroborate each other’s feelings. When one of us brings up an irrational insight, the other checks it for truth without filtering, debating, or trying to "get cute" with the information. This practice has been essential in building trust in our own intuition.

The Allegory of Narcissus: Breaking the Shell of Matter

The painting The Metamorphosis of Narcissus by Salvador Dalí serves as an allegory for our descent as spiritual beings into the material world. Narcissus is trapped by his own reflection, representing our tendency to become ensnared in matter. However, by accessing our feelings, we can break the shell of our limited understanding. As that shell cracks, new life emerges, and we become less enamored with our own reflection. This is the process of realizing our true nature: we are spiritual beings having a human journey, rather than human beings on a spiritual journey.

Distinguishing Feelings from Emotions

It is vital to distinguish between feelings and emotions. Emotions are the fuel that aids us in accessing our feelings – that irrational knowledge. If we suppress our emotions, we create barriers that prevent us from reaching our hearts.

When Avril gave me feedback on the presentation, my first emotional response was anger. I did not act on that anger; instead, I let it wash through me, which served to wake me up. The next emotion was fear regarding the deadline. I allowed that fear to wash through me as well, which provided the energy to stay alert and present. By not suppressing these emotions, I was able to use them as fuel to reach the deeper, intuitive feeling of "healing."

For men, this is a critical distinction. Social conditioning often dictates that men should suppress certain emotions, or that expressing them is "wimpy." However, learning to handle emotions with skill is not a sign of weakness; it is a necessary step toward living with authenticity.

Responsibility: The Ability to Respond

Responsibility is truly "response-ability" – the ability to respond intelligently to life. Conventional views often frame responsibility as a burden or a weight. However, we must view it as a conscious choice. One cannot respond intelligently to life without being free, and one cannot be free without taking responsibility.

Michelangelo’s The Creation of Adam illustrates the lack of intelligent response. Adam is depicted as languishing, barely lifting a finger to meet the divine. He is free, yet he takes no responsibility for his own inspiration. When a man is not inspired by life, he is not responding to it. True intelligent cooperation, by contrast, is a win-win engagement where both parties support each other’s growth.

Creativity and Inclusiveness

Creativity is any act initiated by a feeling. As Théun Mares, the founder of Radiant Life Technologies, stated: "Creativity comes upon one in a flash of brilliant insight; one finds oneself acting without premeditation." You do not need to be an artist to be creative; you simply need to follow your feelings in your daily life and work.

Inclusiveness is another signpost of a man marching to the beat of his own drum. It involves expanding one’s world – genuinely listening to family, colleagues, and employees rather than burying oneself in a screen. It is about moving beyond the "every man for himself" mentality and recognizing that uplifting oneself automatically uplifts those around us.

The Path to Healing

Why does this matter for physical health? Marching to the beat of your own drum and listening to your heart is the pathway to uncovering the mindsets that lead to disease. By juxtaposing our current state with a more healthy, intuitive way of living, we begin to see the emotional patterns and mindsets that create the "pressure cooker" of suppressed emotions, which eventually manifest as physical symptoms.

coMra therapy serves as a powerful support on this journey. By introducing coherence into your physiology – in terms of function, energy, and structure – coMra therapy supports the body’s own healing capacity. As discussed in the webinar The Secret Behind coMra Therapy: The Intuitive Understanding of Life, coMra therapy embodies the principles of regeneration, evolution, interconnection, self-sufficiency, and intent.

Ultimately, this is your life and your creation. Stepping out of the confines of social conditioning takes guts, but it is the only way to uncover your true potential and live the life you were meant to live.

The Role of Desire and Emotion in Personal Growth

The conversation turns to the concept of desire, a word that often carries complex connotations. When exploring the path of the heart, desire serves as the essential fuel for our emotions. For instance, the emotion of anger can be understood as a desire to fight; however, when channeled intelligently, it becomes a desire for clarity – a call to pay attention and uncover the truth of a situation. Similarly, fear is often viewed as a desire to retreat, but at its core, it is an invitation to "look again" and gain a deeper understanding of what is actually occurring.

As children, we are naturally passionate and fully engaged with life, but as we mature, social conditioning often teaches us to suppress these natural impulses. Reclaiming this desire is not about the outcome, but about the necessity of following one’s feelings regardless of external pressures. Much like the irrational elements in a Salvador Dalí painting, embracing these suppressed aspects of ourselves opens up an entirely new world of potential.

Addressing the Distortion of Male Energy

When discussing the state of the world today, it is often noted that true, mature male energy is largely absent. Instead, we see a prevalence of "little boys" acting out, rather than men stepping into a role of true responsibility – the ability to respond intelligently to life.

This distortion manifests in two primary, ineffective ways: the "nice guy" who lacks the courage to stand his ground, and the bully who seeks power over others to compensate for an internal sense of lack. Both approaches are rooted in a lack of self-trust and empowerment. The third way, which requires significant courage, is the intelligent approach. This involves moving beyond the "every man for himself" mentality – a competitive mindset that turns the world into a desert – and toward a model of cooperation that fosters the prosperity and mental well-being of the entire community.

The Collective Good and the Power of Coherence

A common question arises: if every man marches to the beat of his own drum, how does this serve humanity? The answer lies in the analogy of a choir. Initially, individuals may be out of sync, but through practice and commitment to their own unique "heartbeat," they learn to improvise and synchronize with others.

This process is not about abandoning one’s values to fit in; it is about maintaining one’s integrity while learning to cooperate intelligently. When individuals – men and women alike – step onto their own path with a heart, they contribute to an emergent property of coherence. Just as in coMra therapy, where the focus is on supporting the body’s innate healing capacity, this individual alignment facilitates a greater synchronicity among all people.

Ultimately, the path forward is not about one gender dominating the other, but about the cooperation between the feminine and masculine principles. As we recognize ourselves as unique expressions of a greater whole, we move toward a state of healing that benefits not just the individual, but all of humanity.